Long-standing grudges earn a penalty for “retention” – The Denver Post

Dear Amy: I’m 50 years old. When I was 15 years old my father had an affair and left. My mother and I struggled for several years.

When I was 17 years old, he had a baby with another woman. My father and his new family live within 30 minutes of us, however, I rarely see him.

At one point when my children were in their teens, he apologized for not being in their lives, citing that he was also raising young children.

I have a better relationship with the local grocery store employee than with my father and half-sister.

About eight months ago, I wrote him a heartfelt letter telling him how I’ve felt over the past 35 years about the whole situation: leaving his family, excluding me from his new family. him, and not around to watch my children grow up.

His response was “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

I texted him on Facebook during the holidays, but that’s all.

My problem is that he still won’t take responsibility for what he’s done to people’s lives. His comment about, “I’m sorry you feel that way” makes me have a bigger grudge than before.

Any advice?

– Boys are holding a rage

Dear Organization: You did all you could to try to put your dad on the scale. And now you are knowing that the man who abandoned his wife and son many years ago is also incompetent to control his actions, apologize and try to make everything right for you or your child. friend.