John Mayer Explains Why He’s Not ‘Dating Out That Much’ Anymore

Six years of sobriety has changed radically John Mayer‘s approach to relationships and dating.

The musician opened up about his past failed romances in the new episode Call her daddy podcast and shared that he doesn’t “go out that much” these days. He explained: “Dating is no longer a codified activity for me, it no longer exists in a way … it’s no longer patterned. I’m not really dating. I don’t think I need to, to be completely honest. I stopped drinking about six years ago so I don’t have the liquid guts. I just have dry heart.” Mayer decided to get sober after suffering a six-day hangover drake30th Birthday Celebration. “You have to be honest,” he said of the decision. “You have to be really, bluntly honest.”

The “Your Body Is A Wonderland” singer has also lived up to his bad reputation in the past, the host said Alex Cooper, “Look, the elephant in the room is that I’m on a show that’s aimed at women, and I have a few name tags on me, like ‘Lothario’ and ‘Woman’s Man,’ and I think that’s it, what is that. He continued, “But I think people would be surprised if they knew it was less me, like, you know that guy behind the tree meme? It was less [Mayer rubs his hands together] and more of it [Mayer looks around in disbelief], ‘Me?’ Because I was always told that wasn’t supposed to happen.” Mayer added that as an adult, he was “made to believe” that “approval” from women was a fleeting thing and any romantic interest shown to him was an “accident ‘, so he learned to ‘make it big’. “And so I felt very deeply when someone liked me. Very deep,” he said.

While on tour to promote his new album Sobbing Rock Earlier this year, during a stopover in Las Vegas, the Grammy winner told his audience that he too wishes people would stop asking when he was finally settling down. “‘When are you going to find someone? You don’t want children, do you?’ What the hell have I done in my life to communicate that I don’t want children? … What are you talking about?” he said in a video posted to Instagram. “I’m fine because the left side of my bed is just a row of pillows. I sleep next to a row of pillows. That pile of pillows doesn’t annoy me or hate me or bring me down.” But Mayer added positively, “I’m having a good time. i will meet someone And when I do, it’s going to be additive and great and great, but until then I’ll be fine.