Dwyane Wade He recently shared how he had to tell his now wife, Gabrielle Union, that he had fathered a child with another woman while they were on a relationship break. The former NBA star said Shannon SharpeHosted by Club Shay Shay Podcast that having this conversation was harder than losing the NBA Finals.
Wade spoke candidly about the difficult situation, how the couple handled it at the time, and how it still affects their marriage today in the podcast episode, which was shared on YouTube earlier this week.
Dwyane Wade opens up about how he told Gabrielle Union he fathered a child during their break
When Sharpe asked Wade if it would be harder to have a conversation with Union and reveal that he fathered a child with another woman in 2013 or if he would lose the NBA Finals, Wade shared his thoughts on the difficult situation with.
“It’s much more difficult to talk about it with my current wife, who wasn’t there at the time, but my current wife was. “You try to think of everything possible,” Wade said. “You think about everything.”
Wade, 41, remembers the time as “quite scary”; the situation, how she will behave as a public figure and how Union would deal with it. But he knew he had to face the situation head on.
“You have a lot on your mind. You’re hiding something from the people you love and it’s hard. At night, when it gets quiet and it’s just you and your thoughts, those thoughts are loud and it gets loud up here in this head,” he said. “I tried to work around it. I tried to break up with her. “Hey, things have been bad lately. Hey, we had some distance in our relationship.’ I tried all of that. She kept showing up.”
While the couple was able to move forward with their relationship, Wade said it wasn’t perfect and a lot of work went into it.
“It wasn’t perfect. It will never be perfect. But that was 9 years ago and we still go to therapy, have been in therapy, we’ve complained about it, we’ve had regular conversations about it,” he said. “And it’s something I need to continue to work and work on. It doesn’t go away because the years come or because I say I’m sorry or whatever it is.”
“This is my family. This is my story”
Although it has been difficult for the couple, Wade said they are not the only ones affected.
“When it comes to my wife and I, it’s difficult, it’s always there,” Wade told Sharpe. “But when it comes to my son, it’s hard for him. That will always be there.”
That’s something he thinks about often, that his son “has a negative influence besides his name” because of “how he was brought into this world.”
“At the end of the day, this is my family. That’s my story,” Wade continued. “We’re going to get through this the way we’re going to get through this. But we will do it.”
The NBA star said time and space doesn’t necessarily improve the situation, but it allows everyone to see things differently. Nine years later, the conversations between Wade and Union are different than before and he makes it a point to continue working on himself.
Gabrielle Union felt “broken” after Dwyane Wade fathered a child with another woman
In 2021, Union spoke about how she felt when she found out Wade had fathered a child with another woman during her break and infertility issues in her memoir, “You Got Anything Stronger?” The memoir takes a look at past traumas that shaped her into the woman she is today.
“I had no words, and even after countless therapies, I’m not sure I have them now. But the truth matters,” she wrote in her book.
Another excerpt reads: “I am no longer the same woman I was when I wrote to you four years ago,” referring to her 2017 bestseller “We’re Gonna Need More Wine.” “If you were then Thought you know me, you’re not alone. I thought I knew myself too.”
The couple tied the knot in August 2014 and welcomed their daughter Kaavia James in 2018.