Thousands of commenters were left dumbfounded after a father explained how he thought he was defending his girlfriend on a popular online forum.
In a viral post published on Reddit‘sr/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/SeattleWA5647 recounts a recent phone call between his ex-wife and his current girlfriend about childcare that ended with him hanging his ex. Titled “AITA for refusing to let my girlfriend take my son after his mother begged me?”, the post received more than 8,000 votes and 2,600 comments in 11 hours.
Explaining that he and his ex-wife have equal custody of their 4-year-old son, u / SeattleWA5647 said that his girlfriend loves his son very much and he plans to propose to her before the end of the year. But recently, the Redditor said his ex-wife, a nurse, called his girlfriend and asked her to watch her 4-year-old while she was at work.
“This happened a few times and even though my girlfriend never complained, I couldn’t help it [feeling] that my ex took advantage of my girlfriend’s good nature and basically messed up our custody agreement,” he wrote.
A few days ago, u/SeattleWA5647 said his ex-wife was asking his girlfriend if she could drop their son off for a few hours when he decided to intervene.
Receiving his girlfriend’s phone call, the Redditor said he told his ex-wife not to take advantage of her partner and find a babysitter. Adding to the fact that his ex-wife “begged” him to take their son away, the irritable father firmly said “no” and hung up, much to his girlfriend’s dismay.
“My girlfriend seemed annoyed with me and said there was nothing I could do because I should have let my ex-wife take my son over,” u/SeattleWA5467 wrote. “I asked her if she was okay being used as a babysitter and she said that spending time with my son was not the same as babysitting.”
For nearly two years, the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted the amount of time nurse parents spend with their children.
From the initial case boom in early 2020, to the recent surge in Delta and Omicron variants, nurses face dire mental and physical consequences of those long hours. reported feeling exhausted and unable to engage in high-energy activities with their children, according to Parents.
Predicting the retirement of 500,000 seasoned RNs at the end of the year, Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that, by 2022, more registered nurse jobs will be available than any other profession. However, amid a massive exodus that has seen 18% of healthcare workers quit, according to Morning consultationthose who stay in hospitals and healthcare facilities face greater difficulties moving forward.
Coupled with fears that work could put families’ health at risk, rising child care costs and the highest inflation rates since the Great Recession have created an even greater burden. more for parents across the country.
However, u/SeattleWA5467 still insists that his refusal to take his son away for a few hours was an attempt to establish a line between girlfriend and ex-wife – despite his girlfriend’s claims that he blew fly the whole situation.
Reacting to the viral Reddit post, the majority of commenters sided with the original poster’s wife and ex-girlfriend, adding that the original poster’s actions ultimately affected his children. me more than anyone else.
In the top comments section of the post, which received nearly 30,000 votes, Redditor u/_iamtinks expressed their frustration with the father refusing to look at his son.
“I think something is wrong,” they commented. “You don’t seem to think about your child’s happiness – he won’t be any happier with you and [your girlfriend] instead of babysitting? “
“Your ex is a medical professional, and we’re in the middle of a pandemic,” they added. “You seem more like control… than actually building relationships.”
Evoking those sentiments, Redditor u/Primary_Criticism929 disagrees with the original poster’s claims about his ex-wife’s relationship with her work and says he speaks on behalf of his girlfriend without watching check her ability to speak for herself.
“I’m not sure your ex is married to her job,” they wrote. “She was a nurse during a pandemic.”
“You made the decision for your girlfriend and just assumed she didn’t know how to stand up for herself,” they added. “You were rude to your ex and your girlfriend in just one conversation.”
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